Yvette...

Yvette Age: 19

Well let’s see here? My name is Yvette Almendarez and I am 19 years old. I am a full-time, single mother of two boys. My oldest is 4 years and my youngest is 1 ½ old. I am a full-time government employed, storm water inspector for the United States Navy. I am also a full-time student at Cuyamaca College finishing my AA Degree in Environmental Management with hopes of transferring shortly to San Diego State University. I am also a part-time model and poetry writer for various companies. Let me remind you once again, I am 19 years old.

My family and I are of Native American decent and my father raised me for most of my life. My whole life in general has been a struggle and I could write forever about all the things that I have had to go through to be where I am at today, but I will keep this short bio about me to everyday things that I presently go through and overcome on a daily basis.

My main focus and incentive for life are my boys. The little men of my house. These boys are my source for emotional, spiritual, and physical replenishment, but I must be honest and say that they are also the first ones to drain it as well. J I keep my children and I focused by keeping grounded within our church (Cornerstone Church of San Diego). My oldest is beginning to find interest in the extra curricular activities such as sports etc., so my good physical health comes from the late afternoon baseball practices in our backyard J oh and of course from chasing my youngest all over the house. When I’m not running after him he is not far behind running after me… I do not have the time to exercise, but a mother herself is exercise enough! Of course the boys have daddy and every other weekend they spend with him is my little break. In my spare time I like to “clean house” in the billiard halls, ride dirt bikes, play all sports, dance all over, and just hang out with friends and family. Believe me when I tell you that I sure know how to have fun and take advantage of my weekend away from my little men!!!J

November writing Topic: Too much Independence, is it possible?

Anyone who knows me knows me as the most independent woman alive. I am driven to accomplish things on my own, and many people say that’s a positive virtue that everyone attempts to gain at some point in their lifetime.

I’ve been separated from the boy’s father for almost two years and had to start from scratch when I left him. I became so accustomed to doing things on my own in the last two years that without even realizing built up a flaw that may only be apparent to myself at this time. I’m driven by my own independence that’s a fact, but the downside to having to be in a pair of shoes like the ones I wear now is, I do not know when and how to let others help me. Maybe I just find it so damn hard to believe that there is actually someone out there that wants to help my boys and I (a man at that!). I think that I for so long have let my past hurts impact my present situations, and if I do not get a grip on it now than before I know it my future will be impacted as well. I can’t go on anymore being so hard, prideful, and MS.Independent because before I know it, I end up hurting people’s feelings that I’ve never intended to hurt. I need to practice and master saying Please when asking for help and Thank You when given it.

Whatever you do don’t fall into the disillusion of thinking that you CAN and WILL do it all on your own, because although it’s possible, there is more emotional consequences than one may see.

So Mama’s if you need the help, don’t be stubborn and say no, but appreciate the kindness of the person offering and politely accept. There is no harm in it, only much needed help. Yes we may be DIVAS but lets also realize we are women here and see that if we let that get to our head we’d only be fooling’ ourselves. J

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