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Dating Older Men:  Are they different?

            Well devoted readers, I have finally decided to go where I had not gone before, and I have to tell you all about it…

            A few months ago, at a party, I met the most amazing guy.  He was tall, dark, blue eyed, and about to turn 46!  Now, I have dated men that are older than me, but never by twenty years.  So I decided to give this guy the test that I give to all men. 

            We chatted at the party and seemed to hit it off quite unimaginably.  (We all know, of course, that means nothing, because who knows if he’s going to call you, right?)  As I was leaving, I could have taken the option of going with him, but that was just too slutty.  We exchanged numbers, made plans to have dinner the next night, had a brief kiss, and I was off.

            The next morning I rang him about ten to further our plans, got his voice mail.  He called me back less than five minutes later.  Picked me up at my front door, took me to sushi, and came back with me to my house to watch “The L Word”.  It was perfect. 

            So how was the sex?  Un-freaking believable!  It wasn’t just that he was older and was more confident, but he was soft and sweet.  He wasn’t some twenty-year old guy just jamming in and out waiting to pop one out. 

            Now, months later, the sex is still just as good, the conversations are just as fun, and the places we hang are cool.  Whether it’s the couch or the finest restaurant in L.A., we both click.  Naturally, since I am a woman of research and fact, I had to see if my theory rang true. 

            An older man at work, 53, yes that’s right, 53, I find very attractive.  I pursued him until he could not say no to having dinner with me.  We went out, again, had many things to mull over, jokes to laugh at, and no awkward silences. 

            But the real test was, how was he in bed?  Phenomenal! Loving, sweet, but at the same time assertive and in control.  Now this writer has her plate full of old men, and I can’t say that it sucks. 

            So, two out of two, rate by rate comparison:  Both were romantic and sweet, but aggressive in a non-threatening way in bed.  Both were not shy about performing oral sex, and both did not initiate sex.  So perhaps this writer is dating the two best lays in L.A., or I have struck in something here.  Maybe older men are the way to go.  

            These, of course, are the only two I have ever experienced, but the difference between them and the younger guys is obvious.  Most younger men, or men between 20 and 35, that I have dated, always initiate sex, often right away, or at improper times.  Frequently, I am bored during sex with younger men, because I feel like a hole that is just getting jammed.  I find that men who are younger are less likely to perform oral sex, and are not confident in the bedroom, so do not take on a leadership role.  Or the ones who do lead, lead with the same pummeling sexation, which naturally leads to women faking their orgasms. 

            I give older men and A plus in the bedroom,  an A plus in conversation, and an A minus in sensitivity, because they are still men after all.

Stephanie

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